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Say What You Feel - Without Starting a Fight

A simple, science-backed framework that helps you express what you really feel - calmly, clearly, and confidently.

Created by Sandy Gerber, Certified Communication & Emotional Intelligence Trainer, TEDx Speaker and Best-Selling Author.

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You’ve Replayed the Conversation 100 Times in Your Head

You want to say what’s real, but you’re afraid it’ll come out wrong.

You hold it in, waiting for the “right moment,” then either say nothing, or say too much.

At home it sounds like, “I don’t want to start another argument.”

At work it’s, “If I speak up, they’ll think I’m difficult.”

You’re not avoiding honesty.
You’re avoiding the explosion that usually follows it.

Without a simple way to speak up, your most important conversations stay tense, messy, or unresolved.

Kathy B. 

“This tool helped me finally talk to my partner about something I’d been avoiding for months - and it worked.”

Jason L. 

“I used it in my performance review and for the first time, I walked out feeling respected and understood.”

Susan A.

“I shared this tool with my granddaughter; it gave her courage to speak up and fix her relationship that night.”

Melina M.

“This tool is excellent! The examples are a  game changer! Usually, you take these online courses and can’t see yourself in the examples given but you’ve included something for everyone. You're such a pro!”

Deanna R.

“Love how quick and simple this tool is to learn. It's unforgettable and gave me the confidence I needed in my relationship.”

Angelique S. 

“Just wish I had learned this tool years ago, it would have changed my pattern of failed relationships! Thank you Sandy!”

The Honest Sandwich™:
Communication That Connects

  • Ever have a conversation that should go well but you end up feeling misunderstood, shut down, or guilty afterward? The Honest Sandwich helps you talk about what matters without conflict, guilt, or over-explaining.

  • It’s one of the most popular tools I teach in leadership and relationship training because it works fast.

  • And it’s grounded in emotional-intelligence principles that are proven to quiet the part of your brain that triggers emotional reactivity.

  • You’ll learn how to communicate so your words actually land at home, at work, and everywhere in between.

What’s Inside the Honest Sandwich Digital Toolkit:

The Honest Sandwich™

Express how you feel and what you need - without triggering conflict or shutdowns.

 A bite-sized communication breakthrough:

  • Short video training - Learn the method directly from Sandy in under 10 minutes.

  • Fillable Conversation Guide - Walk through your real situation step by step so you know exactly what to say.

  • Lifetime access - Rewatch anytime you’re preparing for an important talk.

  • BONUS: Conversation Companion Prompt
    Use this guided prompt with ChatGPT (or any AI tool) to prepare for hard conversations using the Honest Sandwich framework.

Ready to Feel Heard Without the Fight?

Start one calm, confident conversation this week with The Honest Sandwich.

Learn the 3-Step Framework - $27 (Regularly $75)

I Teach This on Stages - and Use It in Real Life.

Hi, I’m Sandy. I’m a Certified Communication & Emotional Intelligence Trainer, TEDx Speaker, and Best-Selling Author of Emotional Magnetism - a book that’s won 24 international awards and is taught in schools and workplaces worldwide.

I’ve spent over two decades helping people stop miscommunication from ruining great relationships, great teams, and great opportunities.

The Honest Sandwich™ is one of my most loved tools because it’s simple, real, and ridiculously effective.

When to Use It

You know those moments that tie your stomach in knots? That’s when you need The Honest Sandwich.

Use it when you want to:

  • Ask for what you need without feeling guilty.

  •  Say no without burning bridges.

  • Speak up at work without freezing, overexplaining or sounding emotional.

  • Resolve tension with your partner or family calmly.

  • Feel heard, not dismissed.

Why This Works When Scripts and Books Don’t

Because it’s not about memorizing lines or pretending to stay calm.

The Honest Sandwich™ helps you:

  • Stay grounded and clear even when emotions are high.
  • Turn overthinking into clarity and calm.
  • Speak up with confidence instead of regret.
  • Build trust through emotionally intelligent honesty.

You’ll finally know what to say in those moments that matter most and say it in a way that people actually hear.

Ready to Feel Heard Without the Fight?

Start one calm, confident conversation this week with The Honest Sandwich.

Get Instant Access - Now Only $27 (Regularly $75)

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Say What You Feel Without Starting a Fight

Master a 3-step communication method to express what you need without conflict.

Start Communicating Better - Now Only $27 (Regularly $75)